August 19th, 2019
We all need to develop habits to help us maintain our mental health, whether or not you have an illness. We don’t all have mental disorders, but everyone has mental health, and it needs to be taken care of. Most of these habits may seem pretty self-explanatory and obvious, but that doesn’t mean we all really understand the importance of good habits or how to develop them.
August 11th, 2019
It’s important to have a daily routine for many reasons. It makes you more efficient, helps to instill good habits and break bad ones, and helps you reduce procrastination and stress. But what if having a routine and doing the same thing day in and day out isn’t what’s best for you?
I have always struggled with finding a balance between keeping each day structured versus unpredictable. While sticking to a routine helps me feel more productive and organized, those routines eventually start to wear me down. I start to question if this is how I want to live my life, and I feel stuck in my constant routine, feeling like every day is just repeating itself.
July 31st, 2019
Although I don’t have a diagnosis of chronic pain or anything like fibromyalgia, I have experienced terrible feelings of pain for no reason, which I recently discovered may be a result of being anemic. I get numbness and aching in my legs, arms, shoulders, and back. Sometimes it feels like a piercing or tingling, but I know when it’s sore from working out and when it’s not. It frustrates me so much because it happens out of nowhere and can last for hours or the whole day, and I have to just fight through but it makes even the simplest things so much harder than normal. It’s also frustrating because I complain about the pain but I can’t give any logical reason for it because there is none. Thus, I have named this symptom of mine my “weird pains”.
July 26th, 2019
An anxiety box is a box of physical comfort items that help you in times of distress. The box can be anything: a shoebox, a crate, a decoration box, a basket, etc. This is a helpful coping tool for when you are having a mental breakdown, a panic attack, a depressive episode, or just feeling stressed or overwhelmed.
Some things you can put in your anxiety box are...
July 25th, 2019
Ever since I was a toddler, I have never been able to fall asleep easily. My parents just thought it was because I wasn’t a very active child. I was quite mellow and calm, and I was always able to entertain myself, even when I couldn’t sleep. My parents said they would check on me in my crib hours after putting me to bed and I would be playing with my stuffed animals. Looking back on that now, I probably just had insomnia. It’s unlikely that I was up late worrying about life at age three, but sometimes even just an empty mind is unsettling for me. I wake up every morning actually surprised that I had managed to fall asleep the night before. Here are a few tips I’ve picked up from my years of sleepless nights, and I hope that a few will be helpful to at least some of you.
July 20th, 2019
There was a period of time when I was obsessed with discovering and exploring new apps for organization, meditation, mental health, journaling . . . you name it. I loved studying the app design and layout, the various color schemes and themes. I was also on a hunt to find an app or a few that I could find useful in my everyday life. I have been trying to work on meditating more, even if it's just for a few minutes, and trying to find online resources to help me with my recovery and healing process.
These six apps are ones that I have loved using and are designed for anyone and everyone. They are all super user-friendly and of course, free!
Hi everyone! Starting on July 20th, I will be working at an overnight summer camp for five weeks, and then I will be moving into my apartment before classes start, so I will be really busy but I will do my best to stay as active as possible!
My inbox is always open ♥︎
Stay Strong Lovelies
July 17th, 2019
Self care is so important to make sure we take time to focus on and take care of our mental and physical selves. No, it’s not selfish, it’s necessary. When you take care of yourself, you’re also taking care of your relationships with the people around you. Neglecting self-care can lead to depression, anxiety, isolation, stress, or angry outbursts, which are unhealthy for both you and your friends and family. Do them and yourself a favor and be kind to yourself.
July 14th, 2019
Imagine feeling like your entire body is suddenly about to collapse right under you. Your surroundings start closing in on you and you can’t catch your breath. You try to fight it but the more you fight the more tired you get. Your mind is spinning and pounding and voices are screaming. You feel like you might pass out, or throw up, or both. Your vision is blurry and no matter how much water you drink your mouth is constantly dry.
If you’ve experienced panic attacks, you may know exactly how this feels, or at least have felt something similar to it.
July 11th, 2019
The other day my friend told me that I am going to die laughing one of these days, because I laugh so much at everything. I’ve had a lot of my friends tell me that, but they also always say that it’s not a bad thing, because it makes them feel good about themselves. That made me start thinking about why I laugh so much at everything.
Laughing is my favorite thing to do in the world. It releases all the tension in my body and relaxes my mind, especially when I’m laughing so hard that I can’t breathe. When I’m laughing, I forget everything and it draws me into the moment so that it’s all I think about. I tend to forget about the outside world when I’m with certain people who make me laugh constantly, but unfortunately that also means I tend to forget to text my parents or girlfriend back for hours and they start to worry.
July 10th, 2019
One of the most significant symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder is a severe lack of sense of self. According to VeryWellMind, a “stable sense of identity means being able to see yourself as the same person in the past, present, and future.” A stable sense of self also “requires the ability to view yourself in one way despite the fact that sometimes you may behave in contradictory ways.” While many people without the disorder have identity issues, people struggling with BPD, like myself, have a very unstable self-image, and sometimes that means we can’t determine who we are in relation to other people.
July 8th, 2019
Your bedroom, or any personal space, is important to have as a place of sanctuary where you can retreat to when it’s time for the day to end, or when you just need your own space. Not everyone may have the privilege of having their own personal room or place, but if you have that luxury, don’t take it for granted. Use what you have to create a space that is both comfortable, functional, and helpful for your mental health and wellbeing.
July 6th, 2019
I have always been a people pleaser; I’ve always thought that if I make everyone around me happy, they’ll like me more. Not that I was necessarily desperate for people to like me, I was just extremely insecure and pleasing people was the only way of getting myself to believe that people didn’t talk behind my back and secretly dislike me.
However, it got to the point where people would take advantage of me. I began being unhappy because trying to please everyone was exhausting and I started to realize it was also impossible. I started focusing on my own needs and my own desires, I would treat myself and focus on “self care” to the point where it became too much. I ordered more take out and bought more Starbucks drinks than I could afford, I stayed in my room and watched Netflix when I didn’t want to go out, and I slept through too many classes because I considered that as taking care of myself.
July 2nd, 2019
Dissociation, according to Better Health Channel, is “a mental process where a person disconnects from their thoughts, feelings, memories or sense of identity. It’s one of the nine main symptoms of borderline personality disorder, as well as a symptom in numerous other disorders and being its own category of disorders. It is most commonly experienced during or after a traumatic event, however this doesn’t mean that you can’t experience dissociation even if you have not experienced trauma or have any history of mental health issues. Each individual’s episodes of dissociation is unique to them, and if it is a recurring thing for someone, each episode may differ from each other for that person.
June 30th, 2019
Body confidence is so important, but it can be hard to get there for anyone, especially if you struggle with mental disorders like depression and anxiety. I have always hated every part of my body and been extremely insecure, and I only recently started to become more comfortable in my skin and with the way I look, but it didn’t happen overnight. Here are some tips for learning how to love and accept your body the way that I did-
and am still currently doing.
June 27th, 2019
Stress can emerge in all kinds of forms, manifest in many different manners, and affect people in countless ways.
Just as stress reveals itself differently among each individual, stress management is also something that is completely unique to each person. The options for how to relax and find peace with your mind are endless, but here is a list I’ve compiled that can get you started!
June 27th, 2019
An easy way to practice gratitude is to just think about what you're grateful for everyday, but writing it down is another super easy way to practice gratitude that is more constructive and provides a visual for your self-care routine.
Hello! My name is Sasha and I am a college student studying psychology, born and raised in Maine. I struggle with borderline personality disorder, depression, and anxiety. Writing about mental health and self-care helps me stay hopeful and positive and keeps me open to learning new things about myself.
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